Prepare To Last
Twin Oaks Presbyterian Church
Background Questionnaire
Please complete the following form and mail it to:
Twin Oaks Presbyterian Church
Attn: Pastor Bill Myers
1230 Big Bend Road
Ballwin, MO 63021
Name:__________________________________ Age:_______ Date:______________
INDIVIDUAL & RELATIONSHIP INFORMATION
1. Educational background:
2. Employment background:
3. How long have you been employed at your current job?
4. Have you been married before?
5. If yes, how many years were you married?
(If you have been married before, please complete the “Previously Married” questionnaire.)
6. Please list the names and ages of your children:
Child’s name:__________________________________ Age:________________
Child’s name:__________________________________ Age:________________
Child’s name:__________________________________ Age:________________
Child’s name:__________________________________ Age:________________
Child’s name:__________________________________ Age:________________
7. Have you previously been engaged?
8. What is the status of your current relationship? (Check one.)
_____ Dating
_____ Engaged
9. How long have you known each other?
10. How many times have you and your partner/fiancée broken up?
11. What were the reasons for the breakup(s)?
12. What are your living arrangements? (Check one.)
_____ We live separately
_____ We live together
_____ We have separate places but spend some nights together
13. If engaged, please answer the following:
a.) How long have you been engaged?
b.) What date and time would you like to get married?
c.) Would you like to be married at Twin Oaks Presbyterian Church?
d.) Do you feel pressured to get married because of family, because of pregnancy, financial benefits, citizenship, etc.?
e.) Once married, where will you live?
14. What qualities do you see in the other person which concern you?
15. What qualities do you see in the other person which makes you consider marrying her?
16. How do you believe responsibilities will be divided after marriage?
17. What fears do you have about marriage?
18. Have you ever experienced depression or any mental illness?
19. Have you ever been physically or sexually abused?
20. What addictions, if any, have you or your partner had?
FAMILY HISTORY
21. Are your parents a.) married, b.) divorced or c.) widowed?
a.) Married:
How many years have they been married?
How happy were your parents in marriage and in what ways did they show it?
b.) Divorced:
How old were you when they divorced?
What were the circumstances surrounding their divorce?
c.) Widowed:
How old were you when your parent(s) passed away?
22. How many brothers and sisters do you have?
23. Where are you in the birth order?
24. When you were a child, how was love communicated in your family?
25. How would you describe your parents’ parenting style?
26. What are your parents’ opinions of your partner or fiancé?
SPIRITUAL INVENTORY
27. Do you believe you are a Christian? Why?
28. What does it mean to be a Christian?
29. What is your church background?
30. What church are you presently attending?
31. How many years have you been attending there?
32. Have you ever participated in a Bible study?
33. In what Christian activities do you currently participate?
34. If married, in what church will you and your spouse worship and serve?
35. Whether or not you are a Christian, please describe your and your partner/fiance’s spiritual beliefs?
36. What are your thoughts about abstinence until marriage?
37. Are you interested in learning more about what it means to become a Christian?
